Through great personal loss, authors Cecil Murphey and Liz Allison have gained insight to share with others who are going through uncertainty, depression, and loneliness after losing a loved one. They also offer advice for those comforting someone who is grieving. Among comforting paintings by artist Michal Sparks, brief stories, personal experiences, and prayers offer a meaningful path toward healing for readers when they: feel alone and lost in their grief and want to reconnect with others and to life seek to make sense of their loss alongside their sense of faith, purpose, and God want to honor their loved one without clinging to the past in unhealthy ways Readers are given gentle permission to grapple with doubt, seek peace, and reflect on their loss in their own way without judgment and with understanding and hope. A perfect gift for a loved one dealing with loss.
I received my copy of Words of Comfort for Times of Loss: Help and Hope When You're Grieving by Cecil Murphey and Liz Allison on a day when I was feeling overwhelmed with the sadness of being single after thirty-one years of marriage.
Cecil Murphey and Liz Allison write from the insight of their own grieving. Because of this, when I read it, I felt like I was sitting with a couple of friends who understood my sorrow.
They understand that there is not a timetable to grief. Yes, the days and times get easier as you get farther from that defining moment of the death of your loved one, but it is still there. There is no guilt in owning our grief.
"For this stage of your grief, accept your feelings, Cec often says, `My feelings are emotions--they are not reality.' He uses that statement as a way to acknowledge his feelings, especially the negative ones.
Too many people don't want you to feel angry. They can't handle it when you yell out that life isn't fair or that you're mad because he died and left you alone."
Cecil and Liz also shared how important it is to gradually let go. In the little battles of letting go, we find continual opportunities to heal and realize that this moment of sorrow shall pass too.
"When you lose someone you love, you think of yourself. You remember life the way it was. You cringe at the future and wonder how you can possibly go on. They're gone. You'll never see them again; never hear their voice or feel their touch. You mourn for them. That's feeling sorry for yourself. That is self-pity. And it's all right."
Their words of understanding and comfort were a balm to my troubled mind.
Michal Sparks illustrations are calming and beautiful. Her illustrations were of the very things that I seek out when my heart is overwhelmed with pain and sorrow: flowers, water, beach, forest, birds, and butterflies.
Words of Comfort for Times of Loss: Help and Hope When You're Grieving would make a great gift for those who are struggling with their own personal grief.